What is your excuse?
I have changed and so can you. What is seriously holding you back? Have you reflected on what is limiting you on your way to use your full potential? If you do hesitate making a change then it cannot be your highest priority to change the stories you tell yourself, the thought patterns you have or your re-actions. We do not need to wait for the permission of someone else to take control over our own lives. Change takes time and in the beginning we are always skeptical towards new ideas. That is human nature. But we humans also possess the ability to adapt to new environments and stimuli. And if being happy is the outlook, what is your excuse for not taking the risk?
Close your eyes, jump, and trust
“Fear is going to be a player in your life, but you are going to decide how much.” – Jim Carrey
I quit my job. I moved to another country. I started my own business. I changed my mindset and perception. I broke free from a toxic environment. I am continuously trying to leave behind what is holding me back to reach my full human potential.
After my early experiences in the working environment have shattered my expectations, I am now taking the control back into my hands. I am creating human-centric business models, so that others do not need to make the same experiences. Were there self-doubt, fear and overthinking? Absolutely! But the rewards of having taken steps into unknown territory are priceless. They are so much worth the effort. I feel like after a dark night the sun is rising again.
“Happiness is a bad memory.” – Ingrid Bergman
Dreams can come true
Whatever circumstances are holding us back, remember that we are in charge. We have the power to change them. And if we cannot change the circumstances, we can still choose how we react to them. I do understand that some circumstances are more difficult to leave behind than others. But if we really want to make it work, we will get creative and find a way. If there is no existing solution we will create one.
“There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure.” – Paulo Coelho
Path to happiness
All we have to do is to clarify our priorities and then act towards achieving them. I have created a framework to help you achieve things you cannot image right now. It has given me orientation to clarify my values, to see where I stand and where I want to go.
I can tell you the journey so far has been exciting and rewarding on so many levels. And the best part of this?
It is not about checking off goals on your to-do list
“I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that it’s not the answer.” – Jim Carrey
The path to happiness is not in material possession or fame, but in being truly who we are, accepting ourselves, living in the moment and enjoying the beautiful things in our surrounding. It is about all the memories we have been made, the places we have seen and the people we have met. In other words the experiences and wisdom we gained on our journey. It is all about the journey.
So when do you start your journey?
Dare to be different
I am going to challenge you to make a change today. I am challenging you to do one thing differently today out of your daily routine. That might be brushing your teeth in the morning with the other hand, taking another way to work or greeting your neighbor/colleague who never greets you first. Afterwards reflect on what was different and how you feel about it. Could this be the first step to more change?
Matt Cutts has done the same thing. He started with small changes for 30 days. See the impact it had on him in his short Ted Talk:
If you need help with the changes you plan to do it can be helpful to find someone who holds you accountable. Or to put it in other words, some external pressure. Your accountability partner should bring some of the following attributes:
- They should be reliable. They should be quick to reach and respond.
- They obviously agree to be your accountability partner.
- Your accountability partner should be able to relate to your intended change. In the best case it is someone who has already made a similar change and has some experience or insights to share.
- Ideally it is a person that you trust, so that you can talk honestly and openly about your issues. The same holds true vice-versa. Your partner should be able to give you constructive feedback but also openly point out where you could make improvements.
Let me know what you changed and what effect it had on you!